When you are a kid, you rely on your parents for almost everything. You have an innate need to be close to them as you are not independent or mature enough to live on your own. However, when you become an adult and take up a job, you start relying less on your parents and more on yourself. While relying on your parents may have helped you get through childhood, self-reliance and independence are what’s adulthood’s about. Since you are now earning an income, you have to be more responsible, discipline, and start depending on yourself for just about everything: shelter, food and clothing. Fast forward 10 years and you are now used to being independent, making your own decisions and doing things your way. However, living with your parents seems to be a constant challenge. Yet, you feel nervous, scared or hesitant to ask them to move out of your house.
Why Would You Ask Your Parents to Move?
You Are Relocating
Some people are happy to spend their whole lives in the same area. Our grandparents, for example, have lived and breathed their last in the same house. However, nowadays, it is argued that young adults prefer to live in many different places in their lifetime. Since the new generation has a strong desire to live their lives to the fullest, they prefer moving from one place to another.
If living in the same place makes your life monotonous and boring, relocating might be the best option. You’ll then have to break the news to your parents.
You Are Getting a New Job Offer
Decades ago, there was no such thing as “fringe benefits.” But, today, things have changed and employees now receive non-monetary compensation in respect of their employment. Additional benefits that are usually offered to an employee include tax benefits, health insurance, athletic club membership, family and medical leaves, cars and lodging. It’s surprising how you can get both a job and place to live. Apart from the military, there are now plenty of industries that offer low-cost or free housing for workers. So, if you’ve landed a job offer with free lodging, make sure you hold on tight to that job offer.
Your Spouse Has Issues With In-Laws
If your spouses dislike your parents, take comfort in knowing you are not alone.
We’ve all heard how when you get married, you don’t only marry your spouse, but you also marry their family. While you might be crazy about your in-laws, that doesn’t necessarily mean that your spouse should feel the same way about your parents. In fact, it’s pretty common for people to butt heads with their partners’ parents. While some partners try to be a bit more understanding, others would ask their spouses to choose between them and their families.
If you find yourself in such a scenario, the first step would be to talk to your parents about your concern.
There’s Too Much Tension in the Household
Parental arguing is inevitable. When you were a kid, it might have affected your emotional and mental well-being and yet you couldn’t do anything about it. However, if your parents are baring it all in front of you now, you have a say in this matter. If you become anxious, worried or stressed when your parents use hostile strategies with each other, it might be time to ask them to move out from your house.
Parental conflict is often linked to increased aggregation and verbal abuse and if these things are affecting your health, you will have to choose between yourself and your parents.
How to Ask Them to Move Out?
- Plan how you will strike up the conversation with your parents.
- Choose an ideal time to talk to them.
- Avoid arguing and instead try to reach an agreement that would benefit both parties.